Reflection on Our First Peer Community of Practice Event

17 June 2025

Written by: Charmaine Lam, Kites Trust

Stepping into our first Peer Community of Practice (CoP) event, my main goal was simple: to bring everyone together in person, spark connection, and see what ideas might emerge. What unfolded was far more meaningful than I anticipated.

Held in the beautiful setting of Whakamaru, the event had a warm, welcoming energy. What stood out most was how naturally the group connected. Peers were open, generous with their ideas, and fully present. One moment that really moved me was when someone shared they wished we had more time because there was still so much to talk about. That was a powerful affirmation. I remember saying, “This is just the beginning,” and it truly felt like it.

Leading up to the event, I felt a fair bit of pressure—wanting everything to go perfectly and worrying about how the CoP was progressing. But I reminded myself that the most important thing was simply to start and let things evolve. Once the event began, I was a little nervous, but as I stepped back and let the space unfold, I saw the group come together organically. Afterward, I felt deeply grateful. For the first time, I could see the fruits of the mahi I’d been doing since March—and it gave me real hope for what’s ahead.

This experience reminded me that I often overthink and strive for perfection. But in a space like this, what does “getting it right” even mean? I’m learning to trust the process, celebrate small wins, and embrace the journey. I also gained valuable insight into what our peer community values and hopes for—and just how excited we all are to be part of this.

The discussions were rich, the kai was nourishing, and the space itself helped set a relaxed, inclusive tone. If I could change one thing, it would be to lock in the next event date sooner—our peers are busy, and early planning can make a big difference.

Pictured: Charmaine Lam, Kites Trust Community of Practice Lead.

Reflections on My Role as Community of Practice Lead

I’m really enjoying this role. It’s given me the chance to build meaningful connections and learn more about the diverse peer and wellbeing services across Aotearoa. One of the most rewarding parts has been seeing people connect and support each other—especially when new collaborations begin to take shape.

One challenge has been navigating everyone’s availability. At first, I tried to find the “perfect” time that suited everyone, but I quickly realised that this approach was stressful and slowed things down. Now, I focus on creating small, meaningful gatherings with whoever can attend—and that shift has made a big difference.

Personally, I’ve noticed a mindset shift. I’m learning to be more patient, to celebrate progress (even when it’s small), and to lean into flexibility rather than rigid planning. That’s been a learning curve for me, but I’m seeing how it creates a more inclusive and empowering space.

The feedback from peers has been incredibly encouraging. Many enjoyed the first event, and some have already shared ideas for guest speakers or expressed interest in facilitating. That kind of enthusiasm is exactly what I hoped for—it brings the space to life.

Hopes and Dreams for the Peer Support Community

My vision for this Community of Practice is to nurture a space where everyone feels empowered, connected, and supported. I’m excited to see more peer-led facilitation and the potential for sub-groups to form around specific topics or professional development.

Looking ahead, I see myself continuing to connect with others and learning how best to support this growing community. What keeps me inspired are the stories of growth and healing, and the knowledge that we’re helping to build a stronger foundation for the future of mental health in Aotearoa.

Thank you to Wellington City Mission for hosting our first event.

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